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Thanks for the suggestions I’ll look into both options. Msing- Sorry but I don’t think I would be able to commit to a part time without actually being in settled in and figuring out what will work best for us first. Personally, I don’t know how this move away from my husband will affect my daughter- we stayed in America once for 2 months and she got really depressed. Since I’m treating this a ‘separation’ rather than just a move I want to make sure that I give her the attention she deserves- as well as trying to figure out how to survive on our own.
Huilong- The job sounds pretty good. If you could forward me their email I’d like to email them. I was trying to stay away from the 2-6 yr old group…but it looks like I might have to look into it. I just don’t welcome the thought of spending 24/7 with kids all under 6. It gets a little tiring. But I do want to get out of Tianjin before the end of Aug and it’s only for a year…so I’ll try anything now.
As for the apartment…I’m sorry but I don’t think sharing an apartment is a good idea, when I have a 6 year old daughter. It’s not fair to anyone else living there or safe for her. But thank you for the offer, I do appreciate it.
I used to have a lot more problems than I do now here in Tianjin, but it’s gotten a LOT better. In the past 6-7 years I’ve never had any refusals or even mention of my ethnicity…but I had 2 today from Chengdu. After the school contacted me showing interest they asked for a photo and after I sent one they said we weren’t a good fit. The only thing that changed was my photo submission…but kind of glad that they did because I don’t think I would want to work with them anyway. I had some trouble way back when I worked in Wenzhou- a lot of the parents refused to believe that I was American and kept spreading rumors that I was from Malaysia!
Thanks for the heads up but paying +798 a week for my daughter to go to summer camp while I don’t even know if I’ll get a job is a bit much for me, even if I’m sure she’d love it. I still have to kind of bet on a high placement fee for her school plus getting an apartment, moving fees, and what not.
I also tried the Yahoo groups link- but it didn’t work but once I searched Chengdu under groups I found it. Thanks. It’s one resource that I would have never of thought of using and it gives an added bonus of finding playgroups as well. I really appreciate it!
Is it just me, or has anyone else noticed that Chengdu is still stuck with the ‘Whites and blacks can be the ONLY good English teachers’ mentality? It seems like I’m getting a lot of resistance because I’m American Indian. -_-‘ Being brown is not helping me.
Thanks for the feedback guys, I’ll check out Golden Apple and see what pans out. And that’s my real problem Rick…until I get a job it’s hard for me to get out there, and without being there it’s hard for me to get a good job. It would be a lot easier if my husband would stop trying to live HIS ideal life. But my daughter was born in Tianjin and has been here most of her life, unfortunately I don’t know anyone with kids…while my husband works really late most days and 7 days a week most weeks. He went from working at Tianjin TV Station to an advertisement firm run by his friend- either way he doesn’t add much when it comes to funds (he’s making 3,000 a month). So me and my daughter and I are stuck at home most days playing house. I’m used to making over 16,000 a month (no nights, no weekends) and my daughter has been going to school at the University of Tianjin’s Kindergarten that we got through connections.
Starting over ourselves is going to be hell it seems…but I still think she needs family more than money.
My advice- GET MARRIED IN YOUR HOME COUNTRY!! I found out the hard way that getting married in China really really makes getting your spouse a green card harder compared to marrying over there…at least for the US. We’ve been married for 8 years now and have had 2 kids (both US citizens)…but my husband has still never been allowed to go to the US. We don’t have enough money saved up ($10,000) to even apply for a green card but they won’t let him get a visiting visa because they say he’s a flight risk. Even when my grandfather who raised me died they wouldn’t allow him to go. So he’s never even met my family.
You can just have a small wedding (or the marriage certificate) in the UK and then come back to hold the ‘wedding’- but at least you won’t have to deal with the embassy if you want your wife to return to the UK with you.
