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Lol! My sister actually makes it a point to feign stupidity in order to get out of an uncomfortable conversation with a guy she’s not interested in. It has worked very well in the past.
I dunno, not going to get into this makeup=not being comfortable with oneself debate, but I don’t think the lenses make people look that much different. They just give a wide eyed (and potentially robotic) glaze. 😀 In theory it is just like any other temporary cosmetic item that needs removing at the end of the day. Surgery, on the other hand…
Lol. Oh dear. Looks like I’ll have to revert to the age-old teenage methods of pre-drinking and not drink much in most clubs then.
I went to Machu Picchu the other week, really enjoyed the atmosphere. Shame I don’t drink beer though.
@Rick: exactly my point. It’s the crowd and your expectations. Maybe I should check Hooters out again sometime then!
As for safe alcohol to drink, are there any drinks that are less likely to be fake? I’m thinking red wines as opposed to hard liquor, potentially? Which establishments are better at serving the real deal in general, if you know of any?
Quote:There are always a few scantily clad pretty girls who like to gyrate on their own next to a pole,Jeez..that sounds funny..:-D
Never been to Jellyfish but after reading this, I would like to go see how good/bad a club it is.
Lol I had a feeling that observation would pique someone’s interests in the club. 😀
Quote:I know what you mean about dead eyed dancers, I could write a small book about that phenomenon…Sadly, they are usually just going through the motions because they have to, not really enjoying themselves at all, but doing it purely out of obligation.That is so sad. I had no idea they were paid dancers, just thought they were bored single girls.
Quote:Was at Hooters (first time ever) Sat night.. Their dancing is… yea…. Has no soul to it.My bf and I went to Hooters once in Beijing. Was a joke and the customer ended up speaking to us instead of the Hooters girl. I could tell that the girls felt really uncomfortable being as objectified as they were.
Quote:No shit. I got a heavy reminder of this last week. I tried to strike up conversations with 3 different women at the table I was sat at, but it was pretty much a dead dogs crawl past lost.Have to admit I am guilty of this too. It’s so difficult to kindly reject a conversation without being too blunt. Meh.
And as for circle lenses, yeah I guess the idea is to give a more youthful and innocent look. Increasing the size of the iris gives the illusion of bigger eyes without having to go through surgery. They are relatively dangerous and for health reasons alone I’m no longer interested in that shizzle. But yeah, Asian makeup focuses on the eyes, and seeing as our eyes are relatively small and undefined compared to the rest of the face, it makes sense that there are products on the market designed to add more intensity to a girl’s overall look.
The key is to manage your expectations. I really enjoyed a Saturday night at Jellyfish, but then again I was just after dancing and hanging out with friends. It met my needs and Justin Bieber was only played once. I have to admit I love cheese music when drunk though, so that helps. The thing is, the Chinese mainstream music industry isn’t as dependent upon the clubbing industry as it is in the West; Chinese ballads etc are much more suited to the thriving karaoke industry. Massive generalisation, but you get my point.
If you’re looking to meet a nice girl, then I’m not too sure. The girls I saw in Jellyfish and Paname were interesting.
There are always a few scantily clad pretty girls who like to gyrate on their own next to a pole, but what freaked me out was the dead look in their eyes. It was so attention-seeking, but it wasn’t engaging, if you know what I mean? Having said that, quite a few girls seemed nice, so I dunno.
Are there any cases of clubs using fake alcohol over here? I was warned about it when I went out in BJ and SH.
Aww, I’m kinda disappointed to hear it isn’t as scandalous as my female friends have made it out to be. Seems like there is a massive subculture of guys who haven’t read to the end and neg for all they’re worth!
Sounds like you’re not sure exactly how he feels towards you. If you don’t know, it’s kinda difficult for us to give any constructive advice really.
What do you want to happen? If he did feel the same, would you start a relationship, or would you resist because of the anticipated reaction from your friends and family? Can you push through those barriers and make it work?
If things don’t work out for any reason, the final outcome will depend on how comfortable you both feel being friends. Most likely one or both of you will find it difficult and you will lose touch for a while, after which time you might get over him and you can resume being friends. You probably won’t be as close as you were.
But yes in theory and in practise it is possible for true friendships to form. It does get complicated if the people in question have once both had strong feelings for each other, but it depends on the situation really. In general, one’s level of attraction to a mate changes over time, so you should be able to overcome this eventually and benefit from a more stable friendship with this guy. That is, if it is really worth it to you.
@Vincent: LOL.
These discussions just take on a life of their own, huh? Like a Socratic hydra. We’re using the word ‘value’ in reference to our own self worth, what we can offer our partners, AND also the beliefs we hold in our own value system. Are we talking about attraction only? Or compatibility in a relationship? How about a relationship that endures?
So, let’s assume we take ‘value’ to mean those characteristics/traits/possessions/achievements/etc. that we ourselves, potential partners and society view as attractive, desirable and beneficial. The level (whether quantifiable or not) of ‘value’ as perceived by the other will necessarily depend on that person’s unique position, worldview and most importantly – their own bargaining power. E.g. are they looking for someone who can equal them in x respect, or are they just looking for someone who can show them loyal and unwavering love and affection? Even if everything works out initially, everything is prone to flux so a change here or there could well impact the relationship.
It’s quite difficult to generalise, so I can only really talk about myself. As a teenager, I used to have a list of adjectives to describe my ideal partner. What happened was that I’d ascribe these traits to the first guy who met my subconscious attractiveness criteria; it was more of a forced projection of values than anything. What it was guided by, I have no clue.
I’m agreeing with Charlie here when I say that nobody should shape their life and personality with regard to how attractive you can appear to the opposite sex. Some of my friends are very independent and like a man who has all those aforementioned qualities (looks, intelligence, etc.) but who doesn’t try and overtly sell these qualities to every girl he sees; in that sense it would appear that he does these things for himself. It makes sense to me – what if the relationship doesn’t work out? How can you possibly mould yourself into every girl’s dream partner? You simply can’t. You’ve just got to be true to your values, be secure in yourself and very naturally, the confidence and passion that will emanate from you will attract people without even trying to. Those two things – confidence and passion – I believe, are the most attractive qualities in any person.
Like Sascha, I’m no longer ‘in the market’ as it were so I am may not be an authority on the matter. I do still care about my own self worth/potential attractiveness though, and it doesn’t disappear if you’re in a relationship. I like to think that investing in myself pays me back every day. 🙂
Finally, I feel I must shamefully own up to possessing not just one, but two sets of couples’ T-shirts. My boyfriend refuses to wear them in public and if he does, it goes under a jumper. I don’t blame him though!
Quote:@Lisa: horse and mule market (骡马市) is quiet far from the sheep market street （羊市街）. are you sure about the location?Yes; it’s about a 3 minute walk to get onto Yangshijie from the metro station.
The actual restaurant is located about 340m away from the metro station.
Type in ‘沁园羊市街店’ on Baidu maps, and it’s literally just the next shop down on Dongchenggenjie.
Quote:It sounds kind of like the cafeteria at a Volkswagen dealership. Anyway, I looked for it on Dianping but I don’t think any of these are the restaurant that you’re talking about. Correct me if I’m wrong. I’d like to check the place out, it doesn’t seem like many restaurants are 16 years old here.Haha. You’re right! Actually in all these 16 years I’ve never bothered to check their name. It’s not displayed prominently at all and the place has never sought to establish itself as a destination noodle bar. Just simple, honest good food. I’m not surprised it’s not in Dianping. Can take you guys sometime.
I’ll try and locate it on a map and share the address here, but it’s within walking distance from Luomashi metro station.
Quote:16 years is quite a while – where is this noodle place?Yup! It’s on the intersection of Yangshijie and Dongchenggenjie I think, called 大众面. I used to live around there. It’s a great local place and the prices are very reasonable. Perhaps part of the appeal is the nostalgia; you guys’ll have to try it out and let me know if my recommendation is justified!
Quote:@Lisa: Family Yu’s Kitchen is also on my to-do list =) When do you wanna go?^^ I have quite bad memories about baijiu but I think one or two are still ok 😉 btw: I asked my “guide” here at the institute about the private cooking class. You are more than welcome! See also PM 😉As I like to suggest thing I would say the following:
25.1 Family Yu’s Kitchen (what do you think Lisa?^)
I’m totally up for it! Thanks so much for your message, I’ll give the instructor a call. 🙂
Also if you love Sichuan noodles, there’s this wonderful place that I’ve been going to for about 16 years – no joke. It still hasn’t changed and the flavour is brilliant.
oh my. that burger!! I die.
Quote:However, eating it might require that you unhinge your jaw like this.
LMAO. Makes me think of this.
@ Dana: Aww no, I won’t be able to check out your restaurant! My flight is on the 16th. I think I need to work on some of the prerequisites you mentioned – namely not letting anyone stop me, haha. I’d love to hear your experiences, definitely! Will PM you. 🙂
What was/is the Brendan Burger? Lol.
Quote:Check that place out. You gotta have baijiu with that meal, though.Apparently one dish is a glorified excuse to keep drinking. Very clever. I have to check this place out!
Yes to supper club! I’m also building up a list of restaurants I want to try out before I leave (incl. Family Yu’s Kitchen, basically all the ones that are highly recommended on Dianping.com), if anyone would care to join me, you’re more than welcome. 🙂
Not too sure about baijiu though. 😛 It probably is the only Chinese alcoholic beverage that goes with all Chinese food (or none, rather). Blegh.
